Steve Carell and Julianne Moore in Crazy Stupid Love

Lies Movies Teach Geeks About Dating – Vol. 3

Episode 3 – Revenge of the ? Sorry, I’m too ill to come up with a good pun. If you think of one let me know – Robin

Rami takes on more movie lies in this installment of Lies Movies Teach Geeks About Dating!

Previous installments:

Volume 1

Volume 2

There’s more on the Podcast plus daily life, fitness, and dating advice in the CfG Facebook community.

 

Steve Carell and Julianne Moore in Crazy Stupid Love

Movie Lie #3: The Makeover Gets You Laid

How many times have you looked in the mirror and thought “if I had better hair, I’d get laid more?”

Or “all I need is to get in shape?” or “once I get this dream job, all the ladies will want me?”

I see this is movies all the time: who you are sucks right now, but if you make some quick cosmetic changes, you’ll instantly become desirable.

You just need a someone with a brilliant sense of style to show up and show you how to look infinitely better. Then, the moment women see the new you, they will all want to make sweet sweet love to your penis.

Movie Examples: Crazy, Stupid, Love, The Nutty Professor, Larry Crowne, Superman, Grease 2

Is it true? NO!

First off I’d like to mention that looking good helps. Geeks, by all means, please learn to dress better, groom yourselves. Please get in better shape, and take more care of what you put in your body. These are all Good Things™. No-one will fall in love with you at first sight if you look like this:

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So looking good will help. But remember, it’s not enough.

If all it took to get the girl was being well-dressed and flashing some cash, then every time I go to a club, I wouldn’t see a bunch of handsome losers in expensive suits standing around two magnum bottles by themselves.

The new suit and haircut will help get you in the door. When you talk to a girl, she’ll be more likely to stick around if you look well put together.

But after that? If you don’t have anything captivating to say, she’s outta there. (Rami talked about this with gamer girl Serenity in an episode of the podcast – Robin)

The problem with this movie trope is that it encourages exterior changes instead of interior ones. In real life, the best combination is to do both.

Trust me, making some changes in how you approach women, how you view them, and how you view yourself, is much more potent than a new suit. But for maximum effect, do both.

The reason I love Crazy, Stupid, Love is because after Steve Carell gets his makeover, he still manages to fuck it up with a cute hairdresser by opening his mouth and saying something ridiculous.

That’s when Ryan Gosling decides to also teach him how to talk and act, which is what we should all be doing.

Try Instead: well, this one’s more like an “and” than an “or”. Learn to talk to women, and get her number, in addition to learning to look good.


Rami the Gutsy Geek – Geek Dating Overlord


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