Have you ever heard this expression before?
“Don’t make someone a priority if they make you an option.”
I’ve always been a fan of this phrase, especially in the context of dating.
Every geek I know has had this happen to them at one point or another. They meet someone who they think is devilishly attractive. They hit it off. They exchange contact information. And then when it’s time to set a date, the other person flakes.
EVERY SINGLE TIME.
Options and Priorities
It happened to me a lot when I was younger. I’d be like “oh, they must just be really busy.” And I’d continue to devote lots of energy to them, to try and schedule a date.
I’d send them messages, flirt via text/msn/whatever was popular at the time, and try to get their attention again.
Eventually I’d get the hint and move on, but not before wasting tons of time and energy on them.
The problem was, I’d make them a priority, but to them I was one of many.
Were they wrong? At the time I thought they were.
Over the years, I’ve realized that by making me an option, they were actually dating the smart way.
Which are they?
So it’s important, when you meet someone new, to remember they’re only an option for now. If things work out, then you can make them a priority as things progress.
But never make someone a priority off the bat.
Why? Well, you never know what’s going on in their lives, do you?
Maybe they’re rebounding. Maybe they’re busy. Maybe they don’t like you that much. Who knows? You’re not psychic, you can’t predict the future.
So don’t dump all your eggs in this one person’s basket, and make sure you have other options.
All the energy you put into figuring this one individual out, and waiting for him/her to message or call you, you can now channel into meeting new men and women.
Who will maybe be more interested. And call you back. And not flake on plans over and over again.
So I’m going to repeat this, one last time: don’t make someone a priority if they consider you an option.
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Rami the Gutsy Geek – Geek Dating Guru
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