Do You Like Yourself?

Self-Love Simple question: if you don’t like or love yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you? I see this all the time. People will come up to me and say “I’m looking for someone to love” or “I’m looking for the perfect person to complete me”. The problem is, these people often don’t have anything to offer …

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How to Write a Book – Part 4 – Heather Ness

You wanna write a book! This is part 4. Missed any of this series? Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Now on with the celebrations! – Robin     Celebrate. You just wrote a book! Reward yourself! In fact, for every subgoal or step along the way, reward yourself for finishing that step. But put some thought into how you …

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How to Write a Book – Part 1 – Heather Ness

Heather Ness She’s the author of Broken Heroes: An Unofficial Guide to the Trauma and Psychology of Marvel’s Defenders (that’s an affiliate link, just a heads up) Heather’s also been on the podcast to talk superheroes, comics, cartoons and more. She also did The Psychology of the Legend of Zelda at Atlanta Anime Weekend. Check out what else she’s doing …

Being nice for no reason

I’ve been having a shitty day. I’ve spent 4 hours getting to Avonmouth. Trains were cancelled. There were no taxis. I waked for 30 minutes through industrial land, muddy footpaths, HGVs tearing past. I delivered a presentation that I was ill equipped to do -it needed in depth technical engineering know how – but I muddled through and no, sorry, …

Feeling lost? Free event to get you back on track.

I’m a prime example of what can happen without a plan. I climbed my way to the top of the corporate ladder and wondered why I was there and why I was so miserable. I had been coasting without a plan, drifting from island to island, mixing my metaphors and ending up on a sandbank of misery (OK enough of …

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Making Decisions in the Mushroom Kingdom

I wonder if I ever told you about a friend of mine, from the Mushroom Kingdom, who was forever talking about visiting Green Hill Zone… but there was always something somehow… It just wasn’t the right time… they couldn’t afford it this year (the coin blocks were empty)… they had way too much work on (rebuilding after Bowser’s latest escapades)… …

Goal Setting for People Who Hate Goal Setting

Goals! So last week I was talking about my goals so let’s do something that makes loads of people roll their eyes so hard that they look like they’re warging. Goal Setting! Yes, I know, groan. Work goals, SMART goals, targets, oh my god can you fucking not?   Well tough tits, it’s my blog and I’m doing this today, …

Taking Control

Last week was a tough week. Changes are afoot for me, my living arrangements, the business, and more. After some of these changes my landlord ramped the rent up massively – the old me would have sulked, blamed the world, my current housemate for leaving, the landlords for being greedy, my employers for not paying me enough, anyone in the …

Comfort Zones

Oh it’s so nice in here. So safe and warm and cozy and nothing can hurt me. But those walls, they creep closer and closer and closer until your comfort zone is tiny and everything else becomes difficult, or scary, or hard.   It’s a tough truth but you have to push against the edges, spend time doing things that …

Free Confidence for Geeks Webinar

I’m excited to announce that I’m running a webinar to boost your confidence on Wed, Mar 16, 2016 7:00 PM – 8:00 PM GMT. You can book a spot here – https://attendee.gotowebinar.com/register/3937393293239026178 We’ll go over tips and tricks for human and animal behavioural psychology, Neuro-Lingustic Programming, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and my own experience of getting through life. I’ll also do …